Michelle Leela Grace

Expressive Arts Therapy

Hurting the One I Love

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I’ve been snappy with my partner lately. I’ve been triggered by or annoyed with others lately too, but I’ve been able to stay calm and mature about things in those situations. It’s just that he’s the closest person to me right now; I see him every day and because of that he bears the brunt of my frustrations.

As the Mills Brothers sing:

“You always hurt the one you love, the one you should not hurt at all;
You always take the sweetest rose, and crush it till the petals fall;
You always break the kindest heart, with a hasty word you can’t recall;
So if I broke your heart last night, it’s because I love you most of all.” [Read more…]

Staying out of Frigid Waters

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Even though I haven’t been in place in life to look for a relationship since last fall, and I’m not ready to make space for one in my life at this time, a relationship is something I want in the future. As I am trying to be open to all possibilities in my life, I know I will open to the possibility of a relationship somewhere down the road.  However, starting something like an intimate relationship can consume a lot of time and energy, so I am telling myself to be cautious when I reach that point on my path. I don’t want to exhaust myself thinking I am swimming along when I am really just treading in circles. [Read more…]

The Door is Open

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As I’ve acknowledged the value of relationships more and more over the years, I’ve found it difficult not to get attached to certain people or certain ideas of how they are supposed to be in my life. A reason for this, I think, is because I spent most of my life pushing people away, and since it hasn’t been that long since I started to let them in, it feels almost counter-intuitive to let them leave, or even ask them to get out. It’s been a matter of trying to find the right balance between keeping some people close and letting others go. It takes both a certain discretion and a tuning into the heart, but sometimes the two conflict, and there is not always a clear answer on what to do. [Read more…]